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Encouragement for Parents with Chronically Ill Children

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Caring for a chronically ill child is marital stress. Ladies and gentlemen, this is no joke for the strongest of marriages! Trying to find alone-time to spend with one another is like searching for a needle in a haystack. If found, attempting to have the energy to enjoy one another’s company without falling asleep tout de suite is virtually impossible! People, such as in our situation, who are caring for a sick child nearly 24/7/365 scarcely have a moment alone for themselves, much less for their spouse. It is sad, but all too true. It could easily crumble the most virile of marriages. Here are a few tips I’ve picked up along the way: 

  • Purpose to steal a moment here and there with a touch, a wink, a conversation, a text; find whatever is intimate between you and your spouse. These little nuances are where your marriage will be sustained until you have actual quality time to spend with one another.
  • Always say “I love you” regardless of how exhausting our day has been. Never neglect one another even if you’re bone tired. The little things matter.
  • Stay attractive even when you want to slob out every moment of every day. Seriously, this is a thing! For me, I put on make-up, do my hair and put on clothes (not a bathrobe!) regularly (though I miss a day here and there), even when I know I won’t be leaving the house that day. It is important that I maintain who I am even though it feels like I’m completely swallowed in care-giving.
  • Find something to watch you both can enjoy in between the stopping to attend your kid’s needs. Togetherness, even sporadically, is more important than you may think.
  • Remind yourself you are not a “team” as that would depict two separate entities. You are, rather, “one” as Christ has brought you together as such. Do not function separately together, but together as in “there is no divide” – you are a united front. 
  • Share the responsibility even if one has a larger role than the other. Don’t be afraid to allow your spouse to help – this is vital to your sanity as well as your marriage.

 

It is of the utmost importance to remind yourself you are in this together and you must face life’s challenges together united as one. Otherwise, it is all too easy to internally go your separate ways without even realizing. The busyness of life is hard enough but, with a chronically ill child in the mix, the busyness can become an insurmountable barrier like the Great Wall of China. Find the time to say “I love you” and, better yet, to show “I love you.” Don’t allow anything to come between you and your spouse. Pray, laugh, cry, aid you child, as one. Above all, put on hope, faith and love in Christ as a united front; this is where you will find your peace and encouragement.

 

Ecclesiastes 4:9: Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

Encouragement for Parents with Chronically Ill Children

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EncourageWordleWhen one has a chronically ill child, it can be chillingly isolating, especially for the child. The whole “out of sight, out of mind” couldn’t possibly be more real. Depending on their ailment, the child can’t go to school, church, activities, parties, or other social gatherings. They are very closed off and, after years of that, it begins to take a serious toll on them mentally and emotionally.

Sophia would give just about anything to go to school, to church, to sporting events, or wherever her friends are so as to interact with her peers and feel a sense of normalcy. The few friends she has retained are living life and she begins to feel the magnitude of isolation. It becomes depressing and our home begins to feel to her like a POW camp. Everyone goes about their business and the world keeps spinning, yet there sits my child all alone.

As a parent, to say it is gut-wrenching to watch my child be so lonely would be a gross understatement. It is disheartening because there’s little one can do. It’s exceedingly challenging to comprehend how so many people rushing around can completely forget an entire person, but it happens every day. People I run into at church, for instance, say “Oh, I’m praying for Sophia” or “I’m thinking of her” or some variation thereof, but she can’t feel those thoughts or, frankly, the prayers. I appreciate them, but sick kids need more than that. Periodically, they need cards, calls, texts, visits and prayer in person so as to be reminded they’re not as forgotten as they may feel. They need to know they’re not “less than” other kids their age because others are well and they are ill.

If I’m being honest, we parents need to see others remember our children, not people saying in passing, “I’m thinking of him or her.” As I’ve said many times, people can’t feel thoughts. We’re not in a movie where people mysteriously feel someone thinking about them. “Good vibes” isn’t a real thing. People need to experience thoughts and prayers, concern and love; action is required. When I see, as I’ve mentioned in previous blogs, other healthy kids at school, church, or out and about, it’s glaringly apparent what my kid is missing.

Sometimes, it’s important to speak up so as to let people know what your child is experiencing because people can’t read our minds. We most certainly do not need to express everything we feel every moment we feel it because feelings can be so against truth, but there are times we must make ourselves heard. That way, no one can cite, “I didn’t know what they were going through.” We must stop being afraid to speak up when warranted. Remind people of your sick child and that they could use a visit. I understand we’re all busy and everyone has their own issues of life, so it isn’t out of the question to say to someone, “Hey, my kid could use _____”. Only then are they aware of an appropriate action. The Church, specifically, should willingly show their love through various people reaching out to that child. That is the role of the body of Christ.

In this particular blog, I’m not giving advice as much as sharing my heart. I’m sure there are others in our situation who are feeling closed off from the thriving. Be encouraged. Share with someone how you or your kids are feeling. Don’t be afraid to speak up. There are too many people in this world for anyone to feel all alone, sick or well. Peace and blessings to each of you and may the healing of Christ overtake you spirit, soul and body.

Life and Death, part II

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Supernatural Faith:

In Peter’s day, when he was supernaturally released from prison and went to Mary’s house, the people were more certain of it being an angel at the door instead of Peter! That is the kind of faith every believer should have in the supernatural that God set up from the beginning. Imagine assuming an angel is at your door! The spirit realm is far more real than the earthly; it’s been around a lot longer.

The offering to God of dying to self is an act of choice and faith that leads one into His perfect will. It allows you to communicate freely with the Lord, to hear His voice, and to know the difference between His voice, your own thinking, and the enemy’s voice. When you are married, if someone else’s spouse calls out in a crowded room, “Hey, husband/wife,” would you turn and look unless it was the voice of your spouse?

Intimacy through your spirit with the Spirit brings the supernatural ability to distinguish the different voices. It’s the same with a friend. If a stranger calls out, “Hey (your name),” and that is your name but you don’t recognize the voice, are you going to pay attention to it like you would if the voice were familiar? You may even look out of curiosity, but you’ll quickly dismiss unfamiliar people.

There are two types of life and death: literal and spiritual. Likewise, there is the natural birth from our mother, and the spiritual birth through Christ. Most choose to try to save this life by, in the world’s eyes, living it to the fullest. They only end physically dead and condemned to hell. By making the conscious decision to let the nature of the flesh die (spiritually) while the body still remains alive on earth (natural), God is honored and we receive life.

Test:

Romans 8:5-8: For those who are according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace, because the mind set on the flesh is hostile toward God; for it does not subject itself to the law of God, for it is not even able to do so, and those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

Here is a question to test if you are led of flesh or of the spirit: What do you personally think about the most? Anything that people think about more than God is of the flesh. Like I said before, it is not that God does not want us to have anything; He just says that He must be first and foremost. God is to be honored at all times and in all things. The things you do acquire here on Earth need to honor Him. Watchman Nee says in his book, Love Not the World, that we must be willing at any moment to part with anything we possess. There should be no attachment to the things of this world lest we be lured into Satan’s trap.

This series of blogs is from the 2nd edition of my first book, What Was God Thinking? Why Adam Had To Die, released September 2014. If you’re interested in more information or reading any of my books, just go to my website at www.thefierysword.com. Next time we’ll continue with part III of, Life or Death.

Peace and blessings!

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Prejudice: The Root of the Problem

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John 7:24: Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.

Isaiah 11:2-5: The Spirit of the Lord will rest on Him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and strength, the spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord. And He will delight in the fear of the Lord, and HE WILL NOT JUDGE BY WHAT HIS EYES SEE, NOR MAKE A DECISION BY WHAT HIS EARS HEAR; BUT WITH RIGHTEOUSNESS HE WILL JUDGE the poor, and decide with fairness for the afflicted of the earth; and He will strike the earth with the rod of His mouth, and with the breath of His lips He will slay the wicked. ALSO RIGHTEOUSNESS WILL BE THE BELT ABOUT HIS LOINS, AND FAITHFULNESS THE BELT ABOUT HIS WAIST.

 

Today I wanted to take a departure from my regular study so as to address the real problem of racism that has overtaken the whole world; the problem that has been present since the creation of Lucifer. He is the father of lies, deceit, injustice – prejudice of every kind.

Prejudice, as I see it biblically, is an attitude of seeing oneself as better than another for any reason. It can be based on social status, color, race, weight, birth, politics, age, gender, physical ability, talent, intellect, education, religion/denomination, and so on. Prejudice is anything that leads one to look down on another; to think more highly of themselves than they ought. Prejudice is the opposite of godly, Kingdom conduct. Prejudice judges according to appearance instead of the Spirit of God.

When any of us judge another according to the physical, we are as stated in John 8:44: “You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” This may be harsh, but it is altogether true. The issue of prejudice, any prejudice, can be resolved only through total humble submission to the King of kings, yet few want to address the issue in this way, including so-called God-fearing folks faithful in church and church activities.

The local churches, black, white, and multi-racial, are flooded with prejudice across denominations. I know “good church folk” of various colors and denominations who are steeped in prejudice against their brother of another color and, for that matter, everyone else not like them. The sickness, the root of the problem of racism and all prejudice, is in the heart of mankind. It’s in the heart of all who are led by the devil, the one who was a murderer and liar from the beginning.

So…I ask you, “Who is your father? Whom do you serve?” If you truly serve the God of heaven and earth, the King of kings and Lord of lords, you will be a black person of honor; you will be a white person of honor. You will be a police officer of honor, a judge of honor, a laborer of honor in whatever you do, wherever you are, with whatever issue you face. You will be a person who judges, not according to the flesh of any person, but one who judges according to the righteousness of God. In this, there will be no room for prejudice and false judgment based on color, creed, gender, or anything of the natural man.

Whom do you serve? If it is God, Jesus the Christ, and you are led by His Holy Spirit, flesh will not be allowed to be your criteria for judgment.

 

I Corinthians 2:14-26: But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised. But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one. For who has known the mind of the Lord, that he will instruct Him? But we have the mind of Christ.

 

Next time we’ll continue with the 2nd edition of my first book, What Was God Thinking? Why Adam Had To Die, released September 2014 (unless, of course, the Lord has something else in mind!). If you’re interested in more information or reading any of my books, just go to my website at www.thefierysword.com. Next time we’ll continue with part II of, Enter the Blood Covenant.

 

Peace and blessings to you all! May we be a Kingdom of God people who love and respect one another according to His Spirit. When we are united in oneness, we can’t so easily come against one another. When Kingdom (of God) culture is your only culture, the culture of the natural man is irrelevant.

 

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The Root of the Problem, part II

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Understanding Submission:

 

Ephesians 5:21 (KJV), 22-28 (NAS): Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God…Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.

 

Submission: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

 

Adam’s place was not only to say “no” to Eve, but also to lovingly direct her to say “no” to the enemy. This is the very reason that women (generally speaking) set the standard in a relationship with a man whether it is spiritual, sexual, financial, or other. Adam allowed the woman to set the standard, therefore, so it naturally is today. God gave the authority to Adam to set a standard and this is the one he chose. This cycle must be broken from homes. Of necessity, the rightful role of authority needs to be handed back to the husband by the wife, and the husband needs to hand authority back to Christ. In this, both the husband and the wife are in proper alignment with Holy Spirit and peace will rule.

When done properly, the woman will no longer have to run things. She will become her husband’s helper – neither will have to dominate the other as they will operate in their God-ordained role – they will live harmoniously instead of nearly killing one another with poor attitudes, harsh words or devastating silence. They will better handle difficulties and disagreements.

The Body of Christ is instructed that the wife is to submit to her husband, but equally the husband is to submit to God. We are also instructed to “submit one to another” so that the greater good of the Kingdom of God will manifest in the earth. Because of the rebellion of both Adam and Eve, the power struggle continues this day. No one seems to want to humble themselves one to another; wife to husband, husband to wife, both to God. Imagine a world where both people in a marriage were so set on pleasing Yahweh that humility reigned. Wow! Neither would ever have to beg, whine, or use controlling manipulation. When you can get to the root of any problem, it can be resolved.

There is a looming curse over women dating all the way back to Eve as we see in Genesis 3:6. Eve was led by the lust of her flesh. Just as Adam gave up authority to Eve, Eve sought to possess authority hot and heavy; so much so that she didn’t just want Adam’s authority, but God’s! Thusly, she brought a controlling, manipulative evil spirit upon women. Women all over the world nag their husbands to step up to the proverbial plate, but often, when he does finally decide to do so, most of the time the wife resists.

Women have an innate desire to control, coerce and manipulate. Many women say with their lips, “You need to be a man and take charge,” yet actions speak a very different message. Wives need to allow husbands to make decisions even if it means letting them make mistakes along the way. Women with sons, teach them how to be men of God. It’s time to relinquish headship over to the husbands and husbands give headship to Christ.

Women are to submit, not control. Men are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, not control. This will lead both to submit one to another because they are submitting first to Christ. By understanding the lack of Holy Spirit leading in Adam, Eve and the modern day Christ-follower, it’s easy to recognize how the problem has escalated over time. Since Jesus bore the curse of the nature of the flesh for all mankind, by properly applying His blood, there’s no reason for you to continue in Adam and Eve’s footsteps.

Once you begin to seek first the Kingdom of God, you’ll begin to delve into the Kingdom Constitution (Bible) and desire most earnestly to pledge your allegiance to the King, His Kingdom and His edicts. Submission will not longer be an impossibility, but altogether supernaturally natural.

 

“But Christ has rescued us from the curse pronounced by the law. When He was hung on the cross, He took upon Himself the curse for our wrongdoing. For it is written in the Scriptures, ‘Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree (Galatians 3:13, NLT).’”

 

We’ll pick up here next week as we continue with The Root of the Problem. If you are interested in reading more, check out my website to order my books, or go to my Facebook ministry page where I post regularly. Blessings!

 

Alexys V. Wolf

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Love vs. In Love, part III

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Philippians 3:7-11: But whatever things were gain to me, those things I have counted as loss for the sake of Christ. More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith, that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death; in order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead.

 

The average person sees physical life as gain, yet Paul states that “all is loss” in order to have knowledge. Have you personally ever loved to the degree of doing anything for another person? More so, have you ever loved God so much that you would commit suicide just to know Him? To reiterate, we are talking about suicide of the sinful fleshly desires, not literal suicide of the physical body. What Christ did physically, we now are required to do in the spiritual sense.

People who think they are to physically harm their physical body are misguided and completely misinterpret the instruction of the Word of God. You cannot beat or burn out impurity or the sin nature because it is spiritual. As a matter of fact, we are to take great care of this earthen vessel because it is the instrument for through which Jesus is able to exert His physical manifestation in the earth.

Spiritually speaking, perpetually consigning the nature of the fleshly man to death is the only way to attain resurrection from the dead. After all, one must first be dead to receive new life. You must be rid of the old before taking on the new. The Law had to come to reveal the wickedness inside every person.

The law reveals the way to death to the nature of sinful flesh which leads to life eternal. Death does not come easily to anyone and does not seem to be a small price. However, everything measured against the knowledge of God is but rubbish. The giving up of your own selfish man is a nominal sacrifice compared to all The King of kings offers. Falling in love with Jesus allows us to have greater ease in giving all of ourselves to the One who gave all. In this condition of love, seeking first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness above any earthly desires becomes a pleasure instead of a grueling task.

 

We’ll pick up here next week as we continue with Love vs. In Love. If you are interested in reading more, check out my website to order my books, or go to my Facebook ministry page where I post regularly. Blessings!

 

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Love vs. In Love, part II

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Philippians 3:7-11: But whatever things were gain to me, those things I have counted as loss for the sake of Christ. More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith, that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death; in order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead.

 

Philippians reads, “the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus.” Knowledge of Christ is only attainable through loss – total loss. There is nothing more valuable in this universe. One can only know Christ Jesus through death just as it was for Adam. To know, in the deepest sense of the word, is for someone to immerse completely into something or someone. Comparing it to human relationships, when a person falls deeply in love, we can say that they die to themselves or they lose themselves in the other person.

The person in love will do anything to get the object of their affection to reciprocate their love. Being in love is often referred to as painful. “Love hurts,” people say. It is painful because those who were once very independent become dependent on the other person reciprocating their love. People have been known to commit literal suicide when their love is not returned. Human love pales in comparison to the pure love of the Savior. We need to be dependent upon Him and independent of self.

God doesn’t just say, “Love Me.” He says, “I love My people so entirely that I died for you so that I can extend to you My perfect love in order for you to be able to love Me back with My love.” Giving up self is a tiny price to pay in comparison to knowing God and possessing an intimate friendship and fellowship with Him and His unshakable Kingdom.

In the first edition of What Was God Thinking? Why Adam Had To Die, I stated, “one could say that Jesus loved us so much that He committed suicide for us that we might live…I call that intentional act of death suicide.” In this, my second edition, I am amending that. Yes, He gave His life, but suicide depicts taking or removing a life exclusively leaving nothing but death.

What Christ did was give life through His death; therefore, the word “suicide” doesn’t aptly depict what He did. After all, He did rise from the dead! We are to give our lives to Christ just as Christ gave His life for us, but we are to do it in a spiritual sense. When we do, we arise from our spiritually dead, fleshly condition while remaining in the physical body. We are to consign self completely which is quite a task given the magnitude of the pull of fleshly desires. Only those completely dedicated to the life of Christ and knowledge of who He is can accomplish such a task. It is supernatural at it’s core.

The latter part of the above Scriptures in Philippians reads, “…that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death; in order that I may attain to the resurrection from the dead. You want to know Christ? Be conformed unto His death and supernatural life stemming from the Kingdom of God will overtake you!

 

We’ll pick up here next week as we continue with Love vs. In Love. If you are interested in reading more, check out my website to order my books, or go to my Facebook ministry page where I post regularly. Blessings!

 

Alexys V. Wolf

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